When you lose someone, you don’t lose them when you both say your final goodbye. You don’t lose them when their car pulls off your driveway. You don’t lose them when you watch them turn their back. You lose them every single day. You lose them slowly and painfully.

You lose someone when you wake up, but there’s no text message from them. You lose someone when you make one toast instead of two, when their side of the bed is cold. When you stumble across their old shirt in your drawer, and you don’t know what to do with yourself.

You lose someone when the ride home is quiet. When you don’t hear them telling you about their day from the other side of the room, you lose them. When you’re laughing among the crowd but they’re no longer at your side, you lose them. You lose someone when you’re tired, but you can’t lay your head on their shoulder, when the space between your fingers feels empty, when you can still hear their laughter in an empty space.

You lose someone every single day, but the aching truth is you never really lose them. They’ll always live deep within. The truth is that they’ll always be remembered because you love them.
But when you lose someone, is it always only a grief loss?

It is true that few scenarios leave a very deep impact within you or sometimes take away a part of you from yourself. But with experience,
I can say that every loss is a hint of forthcoming profit. When you lose your job, you hunt down for a better job, and I see that as a huge profit. Losing a person is way painful, but it also teaches you to learn more.

Accepting the fact that you lost someone is the most difficult part. You lose people within no time, but later it is just you, it takes ages for accepting the fact that you have lost them. Not even in a nightmare did anyone think that their partners are planning to part ways.

Everything seems normal to you before they drop that bomb on you! And you sit there thinking what kind of a joke is this, but it is not. While you think of saving your relation and figuring out different ways of how to improvise or make things work, you already have lost your partner.

Even when the person is gone far away, you still cannot move on from that loss because all you valued and cared was them. You keep doing that until a certain point of time. When we realize that this it and there are no more losses, that is the time when you start looking for things that will make some profits for you.
Losing and gaining is part of life. What really matters is how much have we learnt. The art of losing is nothing but helping someone cope up with the loss is everything! If we have gone through any loss and we know what it takes to cope up. We should always be helpful to those who are dealing with any loss. The more you help, the easier for us to heal. This even applies for your own partners who are not with you now. It is very easy to play the blame game and whine for the loss. But the way we are suffering it is quite possible the other person too is suffering deep down. So, it doesn’t matter how ugly the situation was, Goodbyes don’t have to be uglier. You can always talk and comfort one other and letting them know that you have moved on and so should they.
Life is too short to keep a record of your losses, Pick and dust yourself up and start learning, because only when you learn you will gain something and win over everything. 😊